Feeling hurt is something we all do our best to avoid but which we all agree that it is inevitable at some point in life. Life is messy and complicated, and most relationships demand a lot of work. Even when people don’t have bad intentions, they can still unknowingly hurt the feelings of others.
Knowing how to manage our pain is an essential surviving skill that can save us from becoming bitter and angry people. Learn from these inspiring quotes on pain and feeling hurt how to turn negative feelings into a valuable learning experience.
1. On Healing Your Wounds
It is our wounds that create in us a desire to reach for miracles. ~ Jocelyn Soriano
In times of pain and suffering, the most important thing we can hold on to is hope. Our wounds awaken in us the desire to believe that someday everything will be fine and that we will find happiness and joy again.
2. On Pain
Pain is temporary – The pain you feel today is only to get strength to face tomorrow. ~ Sivaprakash Sidhu
All the diversity and multiplicity of life is founded on contrasts. Without dark, we would not recognize light and without pain, we would not recognize joy. Without witnessing our weakness we would never strive towards strength.
3. On Conflict and Getting Hurt
All conflict can be traced back to someone’s feelings getting hurt, don’t you think? ~ Liane Moriarty
None of us wants to hurt people, yet sometimes we do it by mistake, even when we love. A small misunderstanding can get someone’s feelings hurt and turn into an actual conflict, putting a stain on an otherwise great relationship.
4. On Accepting Risk
Truth is everybody is going to hurt you: you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for. ~ Bob Marley
Getting hurt by people we love is a terrible feeling that can make us withdraw and refuse to engage in new relationships. We should remember though that people are not perfect. They might hurt us or we might hurt them, but in the end, there are people who are worth any risk.
5. On Maturity
The turning point in growing up is when you discover the core of strength within you that survives all hurt. ~ Max Lerner
When we live with passion and enthusiasm we put our hearts to risk. It is inevitable to get hurt at some point. Most wounds, however, never get to the deepest layers of our soul, but only float at the shallow surface. We have a deep reservoir of strength that cannot never get depleted.
6. On Taking Care of Yourself
Nobody can hurt me without my permission. ~ Mahatma Gandhi
Our thoughts and feelings make our inner world, where nobody has access except us. People can affect us only if we let them get there. If we let them gain power over our feelings we surrender our own integrity to them.
7. On the Strength of Love
I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love. ~ Mother Teresa
Love is paradoxical. It can hurt us but it can also bring us the most sincere and profound happiness, sometimes in the same relationship. As our love grows stronger, we can no longer get hurt. When we immerse ourselves deeply in love, we also discover how to deal with getting hurt.
8. On the Power of Words
Even the smallest of words can be the ones to hurt you, or save you. ~ Natsuki Takaya
Words are very powerful because they build bridges between people. They help us communicate and share who we are, what we think, and what we feel so we can connect with others. With their incredible power, words can both harm us and help us.
9. On Not Worrying
If someone really wants to hurt you, they’ll find a way whatever. I don’t want to live my life worrying about it. ~ George Michael
Being careful about our well-being is nothing to be blamed. However, when we let our worries and concerns stop us from living fully and taking risks towards a meaningful life, we should stop and think for a moment. It is better to live a life of risk and love than a life of security and loneliness.
10. On Being a Soulful Person
I still own my heart, which I know because it hurts so much. ~ Emilie Autumn
Having a broken heart is one of the most excruciating feelings, yet it is also a sign that a heart is open to love, risk, and emotion. Deep within our hearts, there is vulnerability but there is also strength.
11. On Betrayal
When someone stabs you it’s not your fault that you feel pain. ~ Louise Penny
People don’t necessarily have bad intentions, but sometimes they act selfishly because they want the best for them, even if it hurts someone else. It is not our fault that people hurt or betray us. Holding to the pain they inflict upon us means hurting ourselves even more.
12. On Trying Again
The surest way to hurt yourself is to give up on love, just because it didn’t work out the first time. ~ Amanda Howells
Getting hurt is the biggest risk of falling in love, but it is a risk worth taking. Not all love relationships are meant to hurt, but we must go through some hurtful ones to find the one that will bring us peace and happiness.
13. On Truth and Lies
No matter how beautiful a lie is, in the end it hurts even more than the truth would have done. ~ Terry Mark
Some people prefer to tell lies as a way to protect their loved ones from a devastating or crushing truth. Lies can be beautiful and powerful, yet when we discover them we feel betrayed. At the same time, we get struck with a terrible truth and we learn that we cannot trust the person who lied to us.
14. On Pain and Anger
It’s a lot easier to be angry at someone than it is to tell them you’re hurt. ~ Zakiya Caswell
Many problems we face in our relationships appear as a result of an inefficient communication. We hold things back or we hide our feelings, yet we expect the other to read our minds and know how we feel. Revealing that you’re hurt takes courage, that is why people adhere more easily to anger.
15. On Choosing Your Battles
You don’t get to choose if you get hurt in this world. But you do have some say in who hurts you. ~ John Green
We cannot choose to spare our hearts from suffering, but we do have the possibility to choose our relationships. Finding people who are worth the risk of getting hurt is crucial in seeking deep and powerful connections.
16. On Learning from the Past
Forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you. ~ Shannon L. Alder
It is harmful to hold on too much on our pain and sorrow, but at the same time, it is wrong to forget why we suffered. Memory serves us well in remembering what mistakes to avoid and how to make the best of new experiences without falling into the same traps of the past.
17. On Pain and Love
He who is or has been deeply hurt has a right to be sure he is loved. ~ Jean Vanier
Getting hurt can make us very reluctant or suspicious about relationships, that is why a person who has been hurt needs a lot of reassurance to believe in love, trust, and honesty. Those who has been hurt are those that need love the most.
18. On Healing
What hurts us is what heals us. ~ Paulo Coelho
The things that hurt us force our hearts to undergo a process of purification and healing that leaves us stronger and more prepared to deal with future problems. In a twisted but effective way, pain is also a cure.
19. On Being Hurt
As one grows weaker one is less susceptible to suffering. There is less hurt because there is less to hurt. ~ Jack London
Too much suffering can make us numb to feelings and emotions, until we reach a point where we don’t feel anything anymore. While in such a case we can no longer get hurt, we also cannot feel love and happiness.
20. On Memory and Pain
I can feel the hurt. There’s something good about it. Mostly it makes me stop remembering. ~ Albert Borris
Pain has a great impact on how we think or how we relate to our own lives. It changes our relationship with time and memory. It forces us to let go of the past and seek solace in the possibilities of the future. We suffer until we learn to forget.
21. On the Cure of Love
Being hurt by someone you truly care about leaves a hole in your heart that only love can fill. ~ George Bernard Shaw
There is only one efficient cure against feeling hurt and that is feeling loved. Love neutralizes pain and fills all the empty spaces in our hearts. If pain darkens our views on life, love reminds us of hope and connection.
22. On Projection and Reality
We are more often frightened than hurt; and we suffer more from imagination than from reality. ~ Seneca
It is a constant part of our nature to be suspicious of the things that have the potential to hurt us. The fear of getting hurt causes us to imagine threats that are not real. Our minds can trick us into suffering unnecessarily.
23. On Remaining Positive
Don’t hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love. ~ Leo Buscaglia
The more time and energy we spend focusing on negative feelings such as anger or pain, the less time and energy we have to devote to love and joy. Negative feelings drain us and leave us miserable, yet we can decide to let go of them.
24. On Finding Solace
When you can’t remember why you’re hurt, that’s when you’re healed. ~ Jane Fonda
When we feel hurt we forget that time is the best cure for everything. Time heals any wound and dulls the pain until the memory of the things that hurt us becomes just a distant image of the past. Letting go of painful memories is the surest way to avoid the pain they provoke.
25. On Loving the Right People
Don’t chase after the people that hurt you, replace them with people that care. ~ Kaoru Shinmon
When we love we tend to forgive those we love, understanding that they don’t do it intentionally and giving them a second chance. The most important thing for our well-being and happiness is to know how to distinguish between those who deserve another chance and those who don’t.
26. On Expectation
Sometimes even stuff you expect to happen can still hurt. ~ Jennifer Brown
Our imagination is a unique power because it gives us the possibility to envision all the possible outcomes of a situation. Even when we think we know what to expect, life can still surprise us in a negative way. We can never be actually ready for pain.
27. On Hurting Others
Some people use their own hurt as an excuse for hurting others. ~ Roland Merullo
Each of us has been hurt at some point in life, yet this is not an excuse to start hurting other people in a twisted attempt to heal ourselves. By hurting others, we hurt ourselves too, creating an endless vicious circle of suffering and misery.
28. On Inner Suffering
Being brokenhearted is like having broken ribs. On the outside it looks like nothing’s wrong, but every breath hurts. ~ Greg Behrendt
People who suffer don’t like to wear their feelings on their sleeves. They mend their broken hearts in silence and solitude, not looking for pity or mercy. We can never know what people feel deep inside their hearts, but we can learn to never judge by what we see.
29. On Joy and Suffering
If we aren’t capable of being hurt we aren’t capable of feeling joy. ~ Madeleine L’Engle
Pain and joy are like the two sides of the same coin. In our world of polarity and contrast, we cannot understand a feeling until we have known its opposite. Being able to get hurt or to become joyful is a proof that we live intensely and that our heart is capable of rich feeling.
30. On Defeating Pain
Pain can be endured and defeated only if it is embraced. Denied or feared, it grows. ~ Dean Koontz
In the process of alleviating our pain, one key element is learning to recognize and accept pain, instead of ignoring or negating it. By accepting pain we gain control over it and we can find a way to defeat it. If we let it take control us, we can never escape its grip.
31. On Living Meaningfully
Sometimes pain and hurt are good things because it means you strived for something in your life. ~ Kathryn Perez
Every action or goal raises the possibility of failure and pain because life itself is a continuous risk. If we get hurt and we suffer, it is a solid proof that we had the courage to take risks and to live a purposeful life. When we value learning and growing, we accept pain as it is.