Envy and jealousy are some of the worst diseases that harm our relationships with others and destroy our well-being with their latent, insidious power. Everyone has felt envy and jealousy at certain moments in life, that is why it is crucial for us to learn how to fight them.
Check out these quotes that will make you reconsider your ideas about envy and jealousy, and hopefully, will help you undermine these negative feelings.
Envy is the art of counting the other fellow’s blessings instead of your own. – Harold Coffin
The main problem with envy is that it makes us put all our focus on someone else’s life instead of our own. Instead of being grateful for what we have, we become angry for not having what others have. Needless to say, such an attitude can only us harm.
Love looks through a telescope; envy, through a microscope. – Josh Billings
Envy makes us critical, intolerant and judgemental which are never good lens to see people through. We exaggerate the minor flaws of those we envy so we can feel greater than them. On the other hand, love does the opposite, by minimizing the flaws as they wouldn’t even exist.
You can be the moon and still be jealous of the stars. – Gary Allan
The worst thing about envy is that no matter how smart, kind, generous, beautiful or accomplished we are, there is always someone even better than us, which means that if we are not careful, we can never escape the grip of envy.
The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves. – William Penn
The problem that envious or jealous people fail to recognize is the ones tormented by their feelings are actually themselves. Their feelings torment them excruciatingly, while the objects of their envy or jealousy can easily ignore their attitude and move on with their lives.
Envy blinds men and makes it impossible for them to think clearly. – Malcolm X
Envy doesn’t only make us angry and bitter, but it also clouds our judgment, making it impossible to choose correctly what is best for us. Envy has the power to distort our views and to impede us from thinking rationally.
Jealousy is just love and hate at the same time. – Drake
Jealousy is a weird feeling. It stems from love and it is able to cross all the way to hate. Combining love and hate, jealousy is never a feeling that we should hold on to because it is unhealthy and eventually ends up destroying the love.
When you do well, everybody’s after you, and sometimes the motives are legitimate, and sometimes it’s envy and jealousy. – Robert Kraft
Even when everything goes great in our lives, we might still be unable to find peace, especially since great success means a greater chance to arouse feelings of envy and jealousy that ruin our relationships. Sometimes, success and envy are two sides of the same coin.
Jealousy is the fear of comparison. – Max Frisch
Jealousy is usually the result of a comparison that puts us in a negative light. We are jealous because we either recognize our shortcomings and become bitter because of them or because we are insecure and fail to acknowledge our own greatness.
Never underestimate the power of jealousy and the power of envy to destroy. Never underestimate that. – Oliver Stone
Succesful people are used to envy and jealousy, but sometimes they underestimate the power of these feelings. Envy and jealousy are always destructive, most of the times for those who feel them, but sometimes even for those who are the object of envy or jealousy.
Don’t waste time on jealousy. Sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind. – Mary Schmich
Success and failure are elusive things because life challenges us constantly and bring changes in our lives that might make us reach the top or fall at the bottom in an instant. With this in mind, jealousy or envy become obsolete.
It is not love that is blind, but jealousy. – Lawrence Durrell
Love is sometimes reckless which makes people say that it is blind, but that is not necessarily true. The actual blindness comes with jealousy. As a mark of insecurity and low self-esteem, jealousy always fails to see things straight.
Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. – Carrie Fisher
Envy, jealousy, and resentment are all poisonous for the person who carries them in their heart. They are the true victims that should be pitied because their negative feelings will eventually destroy their ability to enjoy life and be happy.
It is never wise to seek or wish for another’s misfortune. If malice or envy were tangible and had a shape, it would be the shape of a boomerang. – Charley Reese
Wishing bad things to someone is not only cruel and mean, but it is also a self-sabotaging act. Our acts of malice come back to haunt us when we least expect it. When we harm others, we end up harming ourselves.
As iron is eaten by rust, so are the envious consumed by envy. – Antisthenes
Envy is a terrible thing to hold inside ourselves as it can slowly destroy us, even if we don’t realize it. It takes away the joy to strive towards new goals or accomplishments and it ruins our ability to enjoy the small pleasures of life. Where there is envy, there is no more room for love, kindness, and compassion.
Jealousy injures us with the dagger of self-doubt. – Terri Guillemets
Jealousy is usually a sign of insecurity. Some might say that jealousy is the result of a threat, but it is our own fears and doubts that make us see threats even where there are none. By being jealous, we cause hurtful wounds to ourselves that can never be cured.
Envy is a symptom of lack of appreciation of our own uniqueness and self-worth. Each of us has something to give that no one else has. – Elizabeth O’Connor
The wisest among us know that envy sometimes comes from a lack of self-awareness. When we are incapable to understand who we are, what are our virtues or flaws, we think that everyone is greater than us. We forget that each of us has a set of skills and talents which makes him unique.
If the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, you can bet the water bill is higher. – Debbie Macomber
Envy is such a sly feeling because it only focuses on success, forgetting about the things that made success possible. We envy successful people but we ignore the work that they put into their success. We want the same success, yet we are not always willing to put in the same amount of work.
Our envy always lasts longer than the happiness of those we envy. – François de La Rochefoucauld
It is a cruel law of nature that positive feelings are transient while negative feelings torment us endlessly. While happiness is so fleeting and hard to achieve, envy rapidly grows strong roots. Sometimes, our envy lives longer than the happiness that we envy.
Envy is the coward side of hate, and all her ways are bleak and desolate. – Henry Abbey
Envy and hate have a lot in common, but while hate is sometimes open and honest, envy is usually subtle and hypocritical. We hide our envy because we know it does not honor us and when we are envious we want to look greater than we are, not worse.
Do not overrate what you have received, nor envy others. He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind. – Buddha
One of the strong effects of envy is the inability to find peace and tranquility. When we are tormented by envy, we lose our inner peace. Only those who know how to remain modest in the face of success and hopeful in the face of failure can achieve peace.
Our envy of others devours us most of all. – Alexander Solzhenitsyn
When envy takes over our soul, we actually lose control over ourselves. We become a fainted version of what we used to be. We become weaker, more fearful, and suspicious of everyone. In this state of mind, nothing good can happen to us.
A competent and self-confident person is incapable of jealousy in anything. Jealousy is invariably a symptom of neurotic insecurity. – Robert A. Heinlein
Some say that jealousy appears when someone loves too much but that is a fallacious conclusion. Jealousy appears when someone is insecure, unsure of himself or his worth. Confident and competent people are aware of their worth and understand that jealousy is the disease of the insecure.
Jealousy is the tribute mediocrity pays to genius. – Fulton J. Sheen
Although we are all worthy of the same respect, not all of us have the same talents or merits. Some people are blessed with extraordinary gifts, which will always arouse jealousy from less gifted ones. Once we admit that this is a normal occurrence, we can fight it.
Envy comes from people’s ignorance of, or lack of belief in, their own gifts. – Jean Vanier
Many people envy the success of others because they don’t realize that they could have the same or even greater success if they put themselves to work. We are ignorant about our gifts and we let them unused while we glance with greed at the gifts of others.
Oh, what a bitter thing it is to look into happiness through another man’s eyes. – William Shakespeare
There is nothing more painful than seeing the happiness that we desire so greatly bestow on others. The sadness and bitterness can easily transform into envy or jealousy if we are not careful enough. Thankfully, happiness is an infinite value, so we can all share it.
To cure jealousy is to see it for what it is, a dissatisfaction with self. – Joan Didion
Jealousy is sometimes the symptom of a greater disease. We succumb more easily to jealousy when there is a deep dissatisfaction in our lives. Instead of admitting that we didn’t try enough or work enough for what we want, we blame our misery on others who are successful and happy.
Envy shoots at others and wounds itself. – English Proverb
Envy brings the worst in us to the surface. It makes us feel as though we have power over the people we envy but that is just an illusion from which envy feeds itself. Actually, envy is the most self-harming feeling we can foster.
Jealousy is one of the wickedest of all the passions. But reprehensible though it is, jealousy is almost rather to be pitied than blamed – its first victims are those who harbor the feeling. – Arthur Lynch
The victims of jealousy are not those who have to deal with a jealous person. Those who suffer from jealousy become slaves and victims of their own feelings. Unfortunately, jealousy is a cruel and unforgiving master.
No one can have all he wants, but a man can refrain from wanting what he has not, and cheerfully make the best of a bird in the hand. – Seneca
Envy is understandable in the sense that we cannot hope to have all we want but we often witness others get what we would want as well. The only way to escape the trap of envy and jealousy is to learn to make the best of what we got.
It is better to be envied than pitied. – Herodotus
Being envied is a controversial feeling. Some might feel inclined to see it as a measure of their worth and to feed their ego with the envy of others, while some might feel sad to see others suffer at their success. However, nobody wants to be pitied.
No man likes to be surpassed by those of his own level. – Titus Livy
Envy usually occurs among people who started from the same level. We don’t envy millionaires or celebrities, but we envy those who had the same chances as us, yet ended up well above us. They prove to us that we could have done the same, but we failed.